A friend’s grandfather died this week. The family report that in his final moments he said his goodbyes and passed away peacefully.
The state of samadhi maran, the ultimate final moment, is one in which you have a totally peaceful inner state, regardless of the physical pain at the end of life.
All the work we do in this life is to cultivate that deep inner calm, so that there is zero turbulence (free from attraction, desire, aversion, hatred, sorrow, etc.) in the most troublesome of moments in life, including at the time of death.
As it is currently Paryushan in the Jain calendar – eight days of introspection, contemplation, repentance and forgiveness – we have the opportunity to look deep within and let go of the remorse of unfulfilled desires and harboured resentment towards others. Lighten the load by letting go.
What are you willing to do to seek, cultivate and protect your calm?
Written by Suraj Shah. Inspired by greatness.
When you live your day without a ‘but’, notice how it massively improves your life.
Any well-intentioned comment that has a ‘but’ in it negates everything that precedes it.
“You look beautiful, but I’m not sure about those shoes.”
“That project was delivered on time and within budget – great job. But next time, consider xyz.”
“I agree with your point, but my point is better.”
The ‘but’ in the comment merely discolours the greatness that could have been.
There is a time and a place for constructive criticism. Keep it minimal and focus on illuminating others’ brilliance.
“You look beautiful.”
“Great job delivering that project on time and within budget.”
“Yes, I absolutely agree.”
Through the strength of that affirmation and the acknowledgement of their presence, you’ll find that your own light shines brighter.
That’s where magnificence resides.
“The house was once filled with kids, but since my wife passed away…”, says the 63 year old man, “… nobody visits anymore – they’re all so busy with their own lives.”
The death of a loved one, particularly a husband or wife, can bring about loneliness. It can make you feel isolated, unwanted, unloved.
In the midst of isolation, seek that which brings calm and purpose in your life.