When you live your day without a ‘but’, notice how it massively improves your life.
Any well-intentioned comment that has a ‘but’ in it negates everything that precedes it.
“You look beautiful, but I’m not sure about those shoes.”
“That project was delivered on time and within budget – great job. But next time, consider xyz.”
“I agree with your point, but my point is better.”
The ‘but’ in the comment merely discolours the greatness that could have been.
There is a time and a place for constructive criticism. Keep it minimal and focus on illuminating others’ brilliance.
“You look beautiful.”
“Great job delivering that project on time and within budget.”
“Yes, I absolutely agree.”
Through the strength of that affirmation and the acknowledgement of their presence, you’ll find that your own light shines brighter.
That’s where magnificence resides.